Question: Who is the intended audience?
Answer: This book is for the busy professional who wants to accelerate his or her success. For America’s 2.3 million executives, 4.3 million salespeople, 6.8 million waiters, 735,000 lawyers, 567,000 doctors, 212,000 coaches, 842,000 police officers, 3.8 million teachers, 1.0 million security guards - and everyone else who deals with the public, makes presentations, negotiates with or manages people - success is tightly linked to nonverbal communication. And yet, most business professionals haven’t had any training in reading the body language of others or in using their own body language effectively. These are the people who could use the nonverbal advantage!

Q: What is the book about?
A: Drawing from the latest discoveries in evolutionary psychology, neurobiology, medicine, sociology, criminology, anthropology, and communication studies - plus the author’s 25 years of practical experience using nonverbal behavior in her work as a therapist, management consultant, executive coach and keynote speaker, The Nonverbal Advantage is a skill-building tool, tailored for busy professionals by delivering comprehensive content in an easily accessible format. While many sources for nonverbal communication (including Web sites and research articles) are filled with esoteric jargon and lengthy scientific references, this book is based on the latest research, filled with anecdotes and practical information, illustrated with photos, cartoons and drawings - and handled with a light touch.

Q: Why are you the best person to write this book?
A: Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D. is one of the top female business speakers on the circuit today. As an executive coach, she has helped dozens of leaders learn how to build positive business relationships and project confidence, credibility, and inclusion. She brings all this practical experience to the reader.

Q: How is this book different from other books on this topic?
A: Although several books have been written about body language, there are only a few that focus on body language in a business setting, none that present the material in a condensed, yet content rich format, and none (except for mine) that is written by a professional business communicator.

Q: Is there anything else we should know about this book?
A: It’s gotten great reviews!

Question: Who is the intended audience?
Answer: This is an easy to read and apply self-help book. It is suitable for anyone experiencing problems in their relationships whether that is at home or at work. Stop Being Pushed around: A Practical Guide is a tool for people to utilize if they believe that they are stuck in a rut and who feel unable to move on and progress in their relationships. It is a down to earth, commonsense book which is void of jargon.

Q: What is the book about?
A: The book is about the role of victim and survivor in relationships.

A ‘victim’ is someone who believes they have no control of their life.
A ‘victim’ believes that he/she can do nothing right.
A ‘victim’ believes that no-one really cares for them.
A ‘victim’ is always negative.
A ‘victim’ is waiting for someone to rescue them.
A ‘victim’ puts pressure on their partner to make everything all-right for them.
A ‘victim’ opts out of life.
A ‘victim’ is fearful.
A ‘victim’ is insecure.
A ‘victim’ is usually depressed or anxious.
A ‘victim’ feels under constant threat of something bad happening.
A ‘victim’ sabotages positive thinking and behavior.
A ‘victim’ is distrustful.
A ‘victim’ waits for disasters to occur.
A ‘victim’ will have emotional problems.
A ‘victim’ may turn to drugs or alcohol as a means of escape.
A ‘victim’ will be isolated from friends and family.
A ‘victim’ will withdraw from real life.

Q: Why are you the best person to write this book?
A: I have lived my life as a victim for many years. I have learned ‘the hard way’ how to stop being a victim and transfer to being a survivor. It is an empowering journey of self discovery.

I have been a mental health professional for 25 years. For the first 15 years I was employed by the Social Services Department in the UK and for remaining 10 years I worked as a Counselor in the primary healthcare setting. I have counseled countless numbers of people, during this period, who have become victims in their relationships.

All of the people I counseled didn’t realize that they were victims and believed that they had no control over their lives. Progressing from victim to survivor requires hard work on the part of the victim. It is achievable and the rewards are great. You are no longer under the control of another person. You are free to think and be the way you really are deep down without experiencing the pressure of control from your partner.

To find out is you are a victim please answer these questions.

· Do you feel able to discuss issues in your relationship with your partner?
· Does your partner ridicule you, humiliate you?
· Does your partner ‘play up’ if you are invited out with friends?
· Does your partner hold the financial purse strings in your relationship?
· Do you tend to agree with your partner rather than face the aggressive outcome if you do not agree?
· Does your happiness in your relationship depend on your partner’s mood?
· Do you feel trapped in your relationship?
· Do you think that you should stay in the relationship because you believe you cannot cope alone?
· Are you afraid of your partner?

Here are some examples of positive responses a victim can choose to make on how to deal with living with someone who, you feel, is controlling you:

· Take control of you and your life.
· Don’t be afraid to show your feelings. Learn when it is appropriate to do this.
· Encourage open discussions, to enable you both to have a better understanding of each other’s point of view.
· Realise you are never going to get it right so stop trying.
· Be reasonable, flexible and fair in your responses – but know when enough is enough (you will know when this happens by the feeling in your gut that screams – stop).
· Treat yourself kindly.
· Acknowledge how much you have achieved.
· Don’t be afraid to recognise your needs, wants and desires – you have a right to them.
· Accept that you ‘can’t have it all’ but make sure you ‘get some.’
· Take charge of you and know that any change you want to achieve in your life is up to you.